Luckily, throughout my life, I haven’t been “the new kid” all that often. As an adult, however, I find that being the new kid is becoming more common. It’s funny how sometimes I think about NOT doing things because of the uncertainty (where to park, what to bring, what to wear, etc.). I’ve noticed that pattern and worked to get past those barriers. I think my introverted nature makes these new situations more scary because it seems like everyone else is always chummy and social, leaving me to my lonesome. This is a hard one to overcome, but noticing it is helpful.
One place I felt very secure before moving was at the yoga studio. I knew all the staff and teachers and many of the fellow students. I usually knew at least 2 people walking around. They knew me. I knew where stuff was, how to set up in the space and to some extent, how the class was going to go. No stress. No uncertainty. Awesome.
Earlier this week, I set out for my first visit to a new studio. I was resistant. I know the protocol of studios, so there was some consistency, like going early to pay and get the run-down. I was the first one there and, like many studios, although the person at the desk knew I was new, I didn’t get much by way of assistance. I stepped into the space and immediately knew I’d have to ask some questions. Which way do I face? How do you set up mats? Do you use props? Where is the bathroom? Oh, the stress of being new!
I’ve now been there twice and feel better about it. Everyone is really nice and helpful when I ask questions and it’s been a good practice for me to speak up and ask for what I need. Most of us could probably benefit from more of this.
Until next time, have you done anything recently that was outside your comfort zone or have you been the new kid in class?